Monday, April 28, 2008

TEEN SUICIDES!!


You know what the cover strory of this month’s India Today is……
TEEN SUICIDES….and the study says that the percentage has dangerously increased by a very huge amount during the recent years.

India tops the charts in TEEN SUICIDES…….I was suddenly taken aback…..what the hell!!…..India tops the charts!!!...How surprising was that??…….Previously , it was the US that has topped in teen suicides and crime. Is this called as “being cool” or “westernizing” ?? Where is India heading to in the near future?? It is a real big question mark…..

The main causes for teen suicide as in the survey conducted are :
1) Parental pressure to perform well in the acads.
2) Inability to cope with disappointments and failures.

And above all, parents don’t have an inkling or the slightest clue about their children’s depression or suicidal tendencies…………SIXER!!!

90% of the suicide notes have their childrem apologizing to their parents for not being able to perform well….”sorry baba, I let you down”…..”Sorry appa,I failed in the exam.I cant show my face to you again”……….”amma I am not able to take any more pressure”……”I QUIT”.

Can anyone understand how depressing and helpless these notes are !!!

Why doesnt the parents give their children breathing space?Why cant they just leave them alone?Why does every parent in the world want their child to get the number ONE mark always? As said in Taree Zameen par……..Har maa baap ko avval number kaa bacchaa hi kyon chaahiyeee??… bakee ke bacchhon kaa kyaa haal hoga?

It is very very annoying that the parents don’t have the slightest clue that their children are under such mental pressure. Why doesn’t a father speak like a friend to his son and find out what his son’s actual thoughts are? Why don’t the children have the right to think innovatively?If all the people become software engineers and doctors , who will take up a career in other fields.

Adolescence is such a delicate stage of life for any human-being.Why doesn’t the parents feel the responsibility to handle their children with care and counsel them properly. Do they have to dictate their children’s future just because they have given birth to them?Why cant they guide their children properly when they need it the most?Why is there such a huge gap between a child and a parent that the child would find “DYING” easier than confronting their parents………..

I have the greatest fear that all these questions will remain un-answered.!!

Monday, April 21, 2008

Love is Universal!!


Recently , I happened to watch a wonderful movie…. Gamyam…..Though I feel that the director was only 70% percent successful in conveying what the story writer wanted to express , the story, dialogues and what was wanted to be conveyed were simple SUPERB!!

There is particular scene in the movie which I loved and it brought tears into my eyes.
The hero is always at the back of a girl who is a medico and keeps moving in various camps from one place to another providing medical help to the common people.I should say that she works at the grass root level , SERVING people.

The hero is a rich kid who was brought with only the riches in the world and nothing else.
He is always at the back of the girl roaming to whatever place she goes claiming that he loves her very much and he is wanting the same from her.

One day when both of them were walking on the road, a lady comes up to them along with her new born baby thanking the heroine for her medical help during her delivery and asks the hero who was beside her to bless her baby showing lots of love and gratitude towards them. This arrogant guy shoos her off rudely and says that he is sick of such an cheap and a poor environment. For that, the girl asks him only one question.

Heroine( to the hero): Can you really take love if it is given??
Hero : Of course and it is the only reason I am behind you from so many days( wanting your love).
Heroine : That lady tried to give love to you. But you had hurt her feelings by shooing her off rudely. Can you really take love if it is given??
Hero : Don’t be silly. I don’t need that lady’s love. I need your love. That lady does not mean anything to me. I don’t need to show her love.
Heroine : That’s the biggest mistake you are making. Love is universal . How can you love me when you are not able to reciprocate to the love that the lady has expressed??

HOW TRUE!! I was completely bowled over by this. Really , Love is universal. How can you love a particular person when you are not able to love the people around you. Is the love that you show to your family different from the love you show to a neighbor? Though you might not know that person , atleast you could reciprocate wishing her good luck which would have been so good to her .

Who says that movies don’t teach us anything. It is such a powerful medium. As long as we have the right people who could built up such superb movies , there is so much that could be shown on the silver screen which could influence the thought process of thousands of people.